It wasn’t the title of this book that made me want to check it out, but instead the subtitle: “Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy.”

Who of us hasn’t done all three of those things repeatedly in our lifetimes. And yet, I persistently seek to learn from those who have managed all of these things with grace, poise, and indefatigability (how’s that for an awesome word ?).

Sheryl Sandberg wrote “Option B” after the sudden death of her husband. She enlisted the help of Adam Grant, renowned psychologist and Wharton’s top-rated professor to provide statistics, facts and resolutions on how others have been able to live through deep loss and pain and come out on the other side with renewed hope and fervor.

This book is not a depressing read however, instead it will resonate with anyone who has experienced extreme sadness. Many times in life we agonize and lament over wanting Option A. In my case it’s been wanting my mom back who passed away over 30 years ago. My Option A will never ever… ever… ever… be available. So I’ve had to make the most of Option B.

In thinking about this, aren’t we all living in our own version of Option B or even C and D? Haven’t we ALL experienced loss, whether it be of a loved one, of a job, friend or our own health?

I found “Option B” to be truly illuminating in how the human psyche is wired to deal with immense pain and loss; and inspiring in offering concrete steps in working with our own unique Option B and how to learn to not just live in it, but to Thrive.

Photo by Gaelle Marcel